Sunday, December 29, 2013
Hi guys!
Hey guys! So I'm not sure if I will film and post a video today but I'm working the early shift at work so there will definitely be a blog post! I really wish you guys would have commented, even if not on here on facebook or twitter! But I think I am in the mood for a lighthearted post because it is my significant other's birthday! (Happy birthday babe!) Also it's raining, so today should be a pretty easy day! Hope you all are having a wonderful day! Byyyyyeeee munckins! <3
Friday, December 27, 2013
Some updates! (Leave opinions in comments.)
So if you are following us on Instagram (@incoerciblelife) you may know that I got a camera for Christmas. What this means is that videos are going to be made! I am actually thinking of making a vlog today because I am a busy person! One problem though, I dropped my phone yesterday and the screen decided to crack. Not a little crack, a HUGE bunch of cracks and now I am spending over $100.00 to fix it. I may post a picture to Instagram so go follow that. I really don't want to vlog with my camera because it is huge and will be annoying to drag around. I also want you guys to know that I did write a post over the holiday season but I never published it because it is kind of personal; I still have it saved so I will see what I think.
Back to happy things, I need your opinions so PLEASE COMMENT on this post! Should I make a more personal video about something emotional or a haul video? Maybe something about death? Or depression? Anxiety? Christmas present haul? Shopping haul? What do you all think!
Ps. Tag us on instagram (@incoerciblelife) and twitter (@IncoercibleLife) with some pics of presents you got! They can be sentimental or just ones you liked! See you in a bit munchkins! <3
Back to happy things, I need your opinions so PLEASE COMMENT on this post! Should I make a more personal video about something emotional or a haul video? Maybe something about death? Or depression? Anxiety? Christmas present haul? Shopping haul? What do you all think!
Ps. Tag us on instagram (@incoerciblelife) and twitter (@IncoercibleLife) with some pics of presents you got! They can be sentimental or just ones you liked! See you in a bit munchkins! <3
Wednesday, December 25, 2013
Merry Christmas
Merry Christmas! Or whatever you celebrate! Sorry I haven't been posting, work is hectic! Hope all you munchkins are having a good day! (Pssst are you following our instagram? Exclusive gift pics are there! Follow us @incoerciblelife.) <3
Thursday, December 12, 2013
"You're just jealous."
Now, I am not a violent person, but when someone uses this as an excuse to why someone else doesn't like them, it pisses me the hell off. Now, I have explained this and then people come with my other least favorite thing to say, "It sounds like you are being defensive because it's true." No, it annoys me because people should have more humility and should not think that everyone is just jealous.
I think this excuse really says a lot about a person, it shows whether or not they are humble. It shows if they are too self indulged and if they think too highly of themselves. It's like when someone says "She just doesn't like me because I'm pretty," it is pompous. It's a pathetic excuse; if someone doesn't like you they probably have an actual reason, no matter how delusional that reason is. I also think it's a way that people push off the blame, if someone is mad at you it is easier to say "Oh you're just jealous" than to say "Well maybe I made a mistake." People, in the heat of the moment, really don't like to take blame. So how can you avoid this heat of the moment, push off the blame response?
Just take a minute. Walk away, hang up the phone, stop replying to the text, say you have to poop for all I care. When you are arguing with someone you really have to step back and say "Do I really want to say this?" And doing that can be difficult, especially if you and the other person are loud, but it's the best thing to do. When you take a breath it can really open your eyes and make you notice that they are hurt/upset/angry too. It causes you to really look at their point of view, and even if you don't agree with it, you can accept and respect it. This will also cause you to pick out what is the best outcome for you, you can decide if you want to stay or leave and weigh the consequences. Plus if someone basically pauses the fight it will make the other person have to think as well, and you people may end up finding the entire thing a waste of breath.
So don't say "You're just jealous." It makes you sound like a moron who doesn't have a valid argument. And don't get caught in the heat of the moment, it can be damaging. And just try to understand everyone's point of view, even if it's stupid to you. Hope you all are having a great, "I have to poop" free day munchkins! <3
I think this excuse really says a lot about a person, it shows whether or not they are humble. It shows if they are too self indulged and if they think too highly of themselves. It's like when someone says "She just doesn't like me because I'm pretty," it is pompous. It's a pathetic excuse; if someone doesn't like you they probably have an actual reason, no matter how delusional that reason is. I also think it's a way that people push off the blame, if someone is mad at you it is easier to say "Oh you're just jealous" than to say "Well maybe I made a mistake." People, in the heat of the moment, really don't like to take blame. So how can you avoid this heat of the moment, push off the blame response?
Just take a minute. Walk away, hang up the phone, stop replying to the text, say you have to poop for all I care. When you are arguing with someone you really have to step back and say "Do I really want to say this?" And doing that can be difficult, especially if you and the other person are loud, but it's the best thing to do. When you take a breath it can really open your eyes and make you notice that they are hurt/upset/angry too. It causes you to really look at their point of view, and even if you don't agree with it, you can accept and respect it. This will also cause you to pick out what is the best outcome for you, you can decide if you want to stay or leave and weigh the consequences. Plus if someone basically pauses the fight it will make the other person have to think as well, and you people may end up finding the entire thing a waste of breath.
So don't say "You're just jealous." It makes you sound like a moron who doesn't have a valid argument. And don't get caught in the heat of the moment, it can be damaging. And just try to understand everyone's point of view, even if it's stupid to you. Hope you all are having a great, "I have to poop" free day munchkins! <3
Wednesday, December 11, 2013
Leeeet's talk about weight.
So I, myself am thin, actually I am underweight by standards, but my doctors consider me healthy. Now before you say "Oh, men only like a woman with curves," or "You need to eat something" or how about "Oh you're so..... bony." let me point something out.
What if I were to say "Men only like women who are fit"? Or how about "Hey, you need to stop eating" or we could go with "You're so.... heavy." It's rude, and would be shot down, and is a horrible thing to say/think; now why isn't it rude when it is said to a thin person? Just because someone is thin doesn't mean they have all the self confidence in the world. It also doesn't mean that they don't get bullied for weight, because everyone does. I have; I've been called anorexic and I have sat and listened to people basically say "Oh you are not what someone is interested in physically." Now who gave anyone the right to speak for everyone of the opposite (or same) sex? People are interested in different things, and women being shot down because they are thin or thick or not super curvy or over curvy is wrong. Also I must say that curvy is a body type, not a weight; I am thin, but I am curvy, you can be thick and not curvy, or you can be thick and be the curviest woman there is, and now that curvy is being used so much it is discriminating against women who aren't curvy. Being curvy doesn't automatically mean every person around you is going to A. have the hots for you or B. be jealous of you.
Now I have to ask this question; why do you have to tear someone else's body type down to make your own better? If you are thin or thick and someone is insulting your body type you shouldn't have to say "Well this is healthier than that" or "This is what people are physically attracted to, not that." You know what your response should be? "Hey, why do you give a flippity freak about my body? Do you pay for its food? Do you pay for its house? Do you live with it everyday?" You also shouldn't care what people are physically attracted to when it comes to your body, you should be what you like and what is healthy for you and just be happy with yourself. Now if someone comes to you with serious concern for your health, then you should listen, but if someone is calling you obese or anorexic just to insult you you should just say "Well, why are you so bitter?" Because you shouldn't have to explain your body to anyone but your doctor. Also don't assume people are insulting your weight because they are jealous, it's because they are nosy and stupid (blog post coming up tomorrow about the "you're just jealous" defense. It isn't going to be for using that excuse either).
Let's not defend our bodies by tearing down someone else's. I wish nobody had to defend their body, but this is the world we live in. Also keep in mind that if someone very nicely brings up a concern for your health they aren't insulting you, they may just be trying to help. This is where I can't help and you have to use your own judgement.
Have a happy, body loving day munchkins! <3
What if I were to say "Men only like women who are fit"? Or how about "Hey, you need to stop eating" or we could go with "You're so.... heavy." It's rude, and would be shot down, and is a horrible thing to say/think; now why isn't it rude when it is said to a thin person? Just because someone is thin doesn't mean they have all the self confidence in the world. It also doesn't mean that they don't get bullied for weight, because everyone does. I have; I've been called anorexic and I have sat and listened to people basically say "Oh you are not what someone is interested in physically." Now who gave anyone the right to speak for everyone of the opposite (or same) sex? People are interested in different things, and women being shot down because they are thin or thick or not super curvy or over curvy is wrong. Also I must say that curvy is a body type, not a weight; I am thin, but I am curvy, you can be thick and not curvy, or you can be thick and be the curviest woman there is, and now that curvy is being used so much it is discriminating against women who aren't curvy. Being curvy doesn't automatically mean every person around you is going to A. have the hots for you or B. be jealous of you.
Now I have to ask this question; why do you have to tear someone else's body type down to make your own better? If you are thin or thick and someone is insulting your body type you shouldn't have to say "Well this is healthier than that" or "This is what people are physically attracted to, not that." You know what your response should be? "Hey, why do you give a flippity freak about my body? Do you pay for its food? Do you pay for its house? Do you live with it everyday?" You also shouldn't care what people are physically attracted to when it comes to your body, you should be what you like and what is healthy for you and just be happy with yourself. Now if someone comes to you with serious concern for your health, then you should listen, but if someone is calling you obese or anorexic just to insult you you should just say "Well, why are you so bitter?" Because you shouldn't have to explain your body to anyone but your doctor. Also don't assume people are insulting your weight because they are jealous, it's because they are nosy and stupid (blog post coming up tomorrow about the "you're just jealous" defense. It isn't going to be for using that excuse either).
Let's not defend our bodies by tearing down someone else's. I wish nobody had to defend their body, but this is the world we live in. Also keep in mind that if someone very nicely brings up a concern for your health they aren't insulting you, they may just be trying to help. This is where I can't help and you have to use your own judgement.
Have a happy, body loving day munchkins! <3
Friday, December 6, 2013
Self worth.
So let's talk about something that I think every human, male or female, deals with some point in their life. Self worth. Something we do as humans is doubt and look down on ourselves, we think we are the worst thing possible. We look at ourselves and because we know ourselves we can point out every little bad thing we do, and it's not just you and me, it's everyone. Everyone struggles with self worth, I give it some more than others, but everyone struggles with it. We all go through stages where we doubt ourselves and we doubt the choices we have made, so I am going to tell you something.
You aren't the worse person out there, if you have a conscious and actually make an effort do to the right thing, you are not the worse person. Yeah you make mistakes, I do too, so do your loved one, so does everyone, and if someone thinks they have never made a mistake, guess what, you caught them in a mistake. You should let you be you and you should be proud of you, learn from your mistakes, don't make the same mistake twice, and you will be pretty good. If you really have no self worth you get held back from doing things you can/want to accomplish, which makes you feel less worthy, and it's just a giant circle of bad feelings.
So how do you fix this? I, personally, write, but you can make a self worth board. This is where you write down things you find positive about yourself and post it on a board. Or you can talk to someone, or go on a jog, or watch a movie, or do your homework. Really all you have to do is do something you like.
Remember that you guys are worthy of being okay with yourself and have a good day munchkins! <3
You aren't the worse person out there, if you have a conscious and actually make an effort do to the right thing, you are not the worse person. Yeah you make mistakes, I do too, so do your loved one, so does everyone, and if someone thinks they have never made a mistake, guess what, you caught them in a mistake. You should let you be you and you should be proud of you, learn from your mistakes, don't make the same mistake twice, and you will be pretty good. If you really have no self worth you get held back from doing things you can/want to accomplish, which makes you feel less worthy, and it's just a giant circle of bad feelings.
So how do you fix this? I, personally, write, but you can make a self worth board. This is where you write down things you find positive about yourself and post it on a board. Or you can talk to someone, or go on a jog, or watch a movie, or do your homework. Really all you have to do is do something you like.
Remember that you guys are worthy of being okay with yourself and have a good day munchkins! <3
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