"You're just jealous."

Now, I am not a violent person, but when someone uses this as an excuse to why someone else doesn't like them, it pisses me the hell off. Now, I have explained this and then people come with my other least favorite thing to say, "It sounds like you are being defensive because it's true." No, it annoys me because people should have more humility and should not think that everyone is just jealous.

I think this excuse really says a lot about a person, it shows whether or not they are humble. It shows if they are too self indulged and if they think too highly of themselves. It's like when someone says "She just doesn't like me because I'm pretty," it is pompous. It's a pathetic excuse; if someone doesn't like you they probably have an actual reason, no matter how delusional that reason is. I also think it's a way that people push off the blame, if someone is mad at you it is easier to say "Oh you're just jealous" than to say "Well maybe I made a mistake." People, in the heat of the moment, really don't like to take blame. So how can you avoid this heat of the moment, push off the blame response?

Just take a minute. Walk away, hang up the phone, stop replying to the text, say you have to poop for all I care. When you are arguing with someone you really have to step back and say "Do I really want to say this?" And doing that can be difficult, especially if you and the other person are loud, but it's the best thing to do. When you take a breath it can really open your eyes and make you notice that they are hurt/upset/angry too. It causes you to really look at their point of view, and even if you don't agree with it, you can accept and respect it. This will also cause you to pick out what is the best outcome for you, you can decide if you want to stay or leave and weigh the consequences. Plus if someone basically pauses the fight it will make the other person have to think as well, and you people may end up finding the entire thing a waste of breath.

So don't say "You're just jealous." It makes you sound like a moron who doesn't have a valid argument. And don't get caught in the heat of the moment, it can be damaging. And just try to understand everyone's point of view, even if it's stupid to you. Hope you all are having a great, "I have to poop" free day munchkins! <3