To anyone who looks at other people as object.

Most of you, I hope, have heard about the recent allegations against the youtuber Sam Pepper. I saw a tweet by Jack Howard saying "Please don't watch Sam Pepper's new video" and not knowing what it was about I immediately went to see what it was (this was before there was talk about it). I couldn't get through one minute of it. What is funny is that about a day after this I had an old man come up to me in a store, the only moment I was alone (looking for socks), and say "And what's your name?" Then as I smiled politely and walked away he called me a pretty nasty name. I was upset and I wanted to leave the store, especially when an employee who obviously did not hear the situation said "Oh well, he probably just thought you worked hear. Did you hear what he said?" I felt ashamed, I felt uncomfortable, and I lied saying I had not heard what he had said to me.

I'm bringing these things up because they are important things to realize and pay attention to. Too often we say "Well as long as you know how to defend yourself it's an okay way to live," and it's not. I don't go shopping for you to come up and ask about my day, what I'm looking for, what my name is,  unless you are an employee and your purpose is to assist me if I need assistance. And Sam Pepper's video took this even further.

To the people who see other human's as play things, think. Stop, and think. Because that human is not a play thing for you to go and pull "jokes" on, especially if those "jokes" are assault. I don't really care what your reasoning was (I refused to watch his videos justifying his actions), it was assault. When a person makes it obvious that they aren't interested, don't act like they are wrong for that. They aren't interested in you, for varying reasons. When someone does not sleep with you don't call them names or a prude, they have real reasons as to why they said no. Please don't expect someone to "repay" you for an action that they thoughts you did out of kindness, because the would probably go back and do it themselves. Now, to the person who stopped when someone said no, good on you. To the person who understand when another human isn't interested, thank you. To the person who stands up when another person is hurt or assaulted, you are valued. And no, I haven't had all of these things happen to me personally, but they do happen. They will never stop, but if everyone took a step just declaring that these actions are WRONG we would not only be able to unite and take steps to better the situation, but we would also be able to see who thinks this is okay.

Some videos about this situation: Consent by Jack and Dean, and SupDaily06

I hope you all are doing well and adjusting, I finally am. I also am going to have a bit of a haul, showing what I've bought and maybe how I'm decorating for Halloween? :) Love you munchkins, remember to speak out.