Tuesday, November 26, 2013

Worries

Let’s get away.
Let’s leave this world behind.
Let’s do this all by shutting up our minds.
Let’s tell them to be quiet, with all their worries and doubts.
Let’s say “We’re not scared” even though we sometimes pout.
Let’s keep our thoughts in a box, hidden under the stairs.
But after we are done with this, Let’s take the poor minds out.
They will dance among the stars.
They will scream and shout.
It may be from anger, or just hungry excitement from being let out.
See this is the problem with hiding all your worries,
They grow, they fester, and turn into flurries.
And flurries fog your brain,
They confuse all of your insides,
So let’s take out our minds.
Let’s deal with our worries,

Let’s smile bravely and know that we will never get buried.
-J.S. 

Monday, November 25, 2013

Having a bad moment?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nqv0Aq5bu0c&feature=youtu.be I was on the verge of having an anxiety attack (shortness of breath, stomach ache, everything down to making tea felt rushed, just like when I was a child) and listening to this really helped me calm down a bit. Probably because I always had cats, try it out.

Sunday, November 24, 2013

Laughing at yourself

I was just inspired to write this post because while walking up the stairs today I fell, and I really couldn't keep it together. I started to laugh so hard I couldn't breath and it was an enjoyable moment to my very neutral weekend. So I got reminded how important it is to laugh at yourself, which is something my family is pretty good at.

This is the season to be inspired and surrounded by the people we love, with my thoughts on  laughing at yourself I was reminded how good my family is at doing that. We really are people who joke, and we joke a lot, and I realized how I surround myself with people who laugh. I have a lot of friends who laugh when I trip, and I laugh at them when they trip, not because we don't care just because we think it's funny. I really have noticed how all of my family and friends are funny and quick to come back with something smart-ass-ish (That is a real word, trust me). I have also noticed how when I have extremely sensitive friends I change a little bit, I would really joke about outside things and not myself or them. That is okay but so is laughing at yourself. If you are having a rough time where if you trip in public you will become shy or cry maybe you should just laugh, laugh so hard that you can't get back up. If you get nervous and start to stutter during something important just crack a joke and laugh at yourself. If you can't laugh at yourself who can you laugh at? No one.

I have to say I really think laughter is the best medicine, and a lot of people act like if you laugh during something serious you are nervous. Like the other day someone asked how my relationship with my mother had been and I just laughed, their view was that I was nervous, then when I couldn't answer why I was laughing they seemed to have that view solidified. I laugh because that is how you get through hard times, by looking back and laughing saying "I can't believe I went through that."

So how do you guys laugh? Do you have trouble laughing at yourself? Do you find it easy to laugh at yourself and not other people? Do you surround yourself with funny people? What is your sense of humor?

Hope you all are having a funny day, love you munchkins! <3

Kay so... no video

I worked yesterday so there is no edited video, and I just watched the entire thing and it is all fuzzy. So until I get my new camera no videos, because I would rather produce nothing then something that is not professional. I hope you are all happy with text posts until Christmas! I am going to post a text post later on! Love you munchkins! <3

Thursday, November 21, 2013

WALL-E

I'm seriously sitting in my bed watching WALL-E because I'm kinda bummed about the video. :( hoping you guys are having a nice day/night

Uughhhhhh

Okay I have tried filming the video literally twenty times, the first time my camera wouldn't focus, so I tried to fix that and it didn't work, then I messed everything up, then my camera decided to die so I switched to my other camera which is a shitty little Kodak camera, then I looked and the video was all fuzzy, then the lighting got all messed up, then my lovely cleaning woman came and I cannot record with people in my house. I just can't, there ends up being background noise and I have to be super quiet as to not disturb others and the lighting is getting all messed up and just :(. So I will end up filming tonight (maybe, worst case scenario tomorrow) after my camera charges and hopefully I will be able to post the video tomorrow, hopefully. This is not going well, at all. Also hopefully being charged will help my camera focus. I am really bummed about this and I hope your day is going better! Maybe leave me some comments saying it will be okay? Ugh I'm frustrated, love you guys.

Filming the video today!

So I am going to film the jewelry collection video today because some of the jewelry I ordered is (supposedly) arriving today! Hopefully it won't arrive late so the video will be posted before tonight! Sorry you guys had to wait so long for it! <3

Tuesday, November 19, 2013

Self harm

How do you all feel about self harm? I think it's like a drug addiction that people have a habit of falling back in to. I also have to say that not everyone self harms because they are looking for help, which I have heard quite often. There is this stereotype that the only reason someone will self harm is because they are looking for help, that is BS. I have known people who self harmed, and they were not doing it just to get help. It also isn't something you can just power through, when someone who self harms has a bad day it can be horrible. Also I know a lot of people, myself included, will have what I call "sad days." I put this as a day where you will get sad for no apparent reason, you will wake up and be sad. Yeah you can distract yourself but you really don't feel any better, and it can get to the point where you just want to curl up and cry/sleep. I also know how hard it is to get people to understand this, people have this biological need to explain everything, so they will take what you are feeling and try to use certain situations to tell you why you are feeling this. It's difficult when you just want people to understand and they don't seem to even listen. I have to say that is probably the most frustrating thing when you talk to people, even trained specialists, about your "sad days" that they don't seem to listen totally. I also have to say, if you know someone who is going through this, listen. Maybe they don't even self harm but, like what happened to people I know, they started to act differently. Ask them if anything is going on and just shut up and listen, don't just listen look at them and remember that this is a person who you care about. Someone who is dear to you and they need someone to listen, maybe telling you will inspire them to tell someone else who can help them. And if they are self harming be there for them, and if you are self harming know that you aren't alone. And not everyone thinks they know why you are doing it, you have your own unique reason and you need help with it. Even if you are just having these days where you are sad, know that you can get help. There is no qualification to getting help. If you think you need someone to help you, get it. You don't have to self harm, you don't have to live every moment in misery, you don't have to write poetry about how bad your life is, you don't have to do any of that to get help. You know yourself best. You have a voice, whether it is loud or quiet, you are important. If you don't think you are important to anyone you are important to me, because you are a living breathing person with feelings and thoughts and they can be the best thoughts and ideas anyone has ever had. So maybe you are someone who self harms or maybe you just have sad days, maybe you are upset and just don't want to bother, just know that is is important to me that you get help. And help doesn't just magically happen, but if you hate where you are you can fix yourself. It will be alright. <3

Inspire me!

Come on mr snowman, inspire me while I blog! Post coming up! Writing it now!

Monday, November 18, 2013

Ootd

Keeping it casual this monday with a nice white shirt and my cosey hat! How do you dress for your Mondays?

Saturday, November 16, 2013

Instagram

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Thursday, November 14, 2013

What to do?

Okay so as you guys may or may not know I love to write. It's a skill, I have this great ability to use words, and I just hope I can make them sound as beautiful as some of my favorite authors. You guys may also know that I have been thinking about going into psychology and that has been my major of choice for quite some time, but recently I have been writing more of my stories and poetry and I really want to write. I don't know what to do because I want to be an author but psychology has been my plan for years, and I don't want to be unhappy. People I have been talking to think that I could blog for a magazine and work on getting a book published then, maybe I will make my own website? I've been taking a class about web design, what would you guys think if I started my own website? Or do you like blogspot? Does anyone like my writing? I am freaking out, I basically, with only six months left until I planned to start, changed my entire mind. I don't want to go through the process of going through college to become a psychologist/psychiatrist (which is 8 to 12 years if you are going for your doctorate) and then not use my degree. That is insane, utterly insane, and a waste of time. I know people say that I have this great long life ahead of me but I really don't, I mean I don't want to waste a minute of my life being unhappy. Writing makes me happy, blogging makes me happy, vlogging makes me happy, writing fictions makes me happy, and while psychology makes me happy it isn't as much as anything else. I love to write for you guys, I love to write just in general, and I am trying to figure out how to make this work.

So I just thought I would ask how you guys felt about changing plans? Do you have a job you hate? Did you take a chance on the job you love? Are you with me where you are torn? Hope all of you are having a more steady life than me, love you munchkins!

P.S. I bought more jewelry so do you want me to wait to make my jewelry video or make it today? Also I have been thinking about starting a new book and posting it to wattpad, would ya'll be interested? Opinions are welcome! <3

Wednesday, November 13, 2013

Just a pic

Loving tea and the season! ♥

Jewelry vid?

So question, should I do a jewelry video? Where I show you all my jewelry and where I keep it and what not? I think it sounds fun, opinions?

Friday, November 8, 2013

Think before you write

Okay so I filmed a video but I don't know if I want to post it. So I am going to write a blog post and see if I want to still post it tomorrow, or make a new video. So I am going to write about something that annoys me.

I have never been cyber bullied, but I have been picked on by people. The worst is when they are much much older than you, I'm talking 50 +. This is difficult because you can't really do anything (especially because I was young when it happened), and I take it this is the problem with cyber bullying. You can't comment to someone "Hey knock it off" and expect them to be intimidated, but when someone insults someone else over the web they can have an effect. This has to be remembered when you comment on something, because if you say something, even if it's on a picture of a skinny girl saying "She has to eat more." I, as a skinny girl, have had this happen, and it hurts as much as insulting an overweight girl by saying "You should eat less."

Think, don't comment on someone's weight. It's none of your business, and don't just think because a girl is skinny that she has all the self confidence in the world. Your words do matter, to anyone. Everyone has confidence issues, everyone has body image issues, don't make it worse by pointing out something new.

So let's all make a pledge to not insult anyone else, to just stay quiet and smile. Remember, your words can make a difference.

Ootd!

Figured I would do a little ootd before todays video! Hope you are having a good day munchkins! <3

Thursday, November 7, 2013

I am so unreliable!

So I have decided I am not going to make a video because I am really happy and mellow and I don't want to go on some great long ramble. I am really really calm and happy and content and just so awesome. Something you have to keep in mind is that becoming mellow and relaxed is odd for me, so bear with me. I have also gone through some changes and I am really starting to gain control of my anxiety/sadness. I have to say I feel so relaxed, especially because everyone in my life has kind of realized why I have been acting odd.

I do have to say I think I am going to blog about Christmas. Don't shoot me, I really hate when people start talking about Christmas super early, but I am seriously so excited this year. I am just excited for the future, which is odd. I really am not looking at it with fear, but with this new excitement. Not even an excited just a happy, and I love being happy and just ah! I have to say I like being happy, so if you are sad I need to say tell someone. I don't like to say depressed because I just am scared that I will be self diagnosing, but I was really going through a bunch of just sad days. So if you are going through that tell someone, it helps. A lot.

Back to Christmas, I am so freaking excited. I can't tell if I'm just excited in general but Christmas is exciting to me this year. Last year, not so much, this year I am in the spirit and I'm freaking out and things are changing for the better and just ah!

Ok, I'm going to calm down. Hope you munchkins are happy, I am, and I hope you are all excited for any holidays and if you don't celebrate anything I just hope you are excited! Bye munchkins! <3

Wednesday, November 6, 2013

Halloween!

Happy halloween! I will be making an OOTD later and probably will be talking about some serious stuff. So check into our youtube channel to see when its posted! Bye munchkins! <3