Self harm

How do you all feel about self harm? I think it's like a drug addiction that people have a habit of falling back in to. I also have to say that not everyone self harms because they are looking for help, which I have heard quite often. There is this stereotype that the only reason someone will self harm is because they are looking for help, that is BS. I have known people who self harmed, and they were not doing it just to get help. It also isn't something you can just power through, when someone who self harms has a bad day it can be horrible. Also I know a lot of people, myself included, will have what I call "sad days." I put this as a day where you will get sad for no apparent reason, you will wake up and be sad. Yeah you can distract yourself but you really don't feel any better, and it can get to the point where you just want to curl up and cry/sleep. I also know how hard it is to get people to understand this, people have this biological need to explain everything, so they will take what you are feeling and try to use certain situations to tell you why you are feeling this. It's difficult when you just want people to understand and they don't seem to even listen. I have to say that is probably the most frustrating thing when you talk to people, even trained specialists, about your "sad days" that they don't seem to listen totally. I also have to say, if you know someone who is going through this, listen. Maybe they don't even self harm but, like what happened to people I know, they started to act differently. Ask them if anything is going on and just shut up and listen, don't just listen look at them and remember that this is a person who you care about. Someone who is dear to you and they need someone to listen, maybe telling you will inspire them to tell someone else who can help them. And if they are self harming be there for them, and if you are self harming know that you aren't alone. And not everyone thinks they know why you are doing it, you have your own unique reason and you need help with it. Even if you are just having these days where you are sad, know that you can get help. There is no qualification to getting help. If you think you need someone to help you, get it. You don't have to self harm, you don't have to live every moment in misery, you don't have to write poetry about how bad your life is, you don't have to do any of that to get help. You know yourself best. You have a voice, whether it is loud or quiet, you are important. If you don't think you are important to anyone you are important to me, because you are a living breathing person with feelings and thoughts and they can be the best thoughts and ideas anyone has ever had. So maybe you are someone who self harms or maybe you just have sad days, maybe you are upset and just don't want to bother, just know that is is important to me that you get help. And help doesn't just magically happen, but if you hate where you are you can fix yourself. It will be alright. <3