I have an unpopular opinion.

So I read something the other day about how girls feel like they "Have to wear makeup" because of "Society."

No. No one is forcing you to wear makeup, no one is forcing you to dress a certain way, no one is forcing you to do anything, you just aren't saying no. It's easier to fit in with the norm, but blaming society for the fact that you feel a need to wear makeup isn't right. I live in the same society as you do, and the only reason I wear makeup is because it makes ME happy.

You can't blame society for those little things, what you have to do is realize that you are a fully functioning human being who wakes up in the morning and says "Well I guess I'm wearing makeup today." Society doesn't come to your house and put on your foundation or eyeliner, that is your hand. Society doesn't choose the bra you wear, the shirt you wear, or the pants you wear, you do that.

Stop doing things because you think that they are the norm and are easier than being different, and then complaining about society. We live in a world where people will push things off so that nothing is their fault; it's society's fault, or their parent's fault, or their neighbor's fault, and while this is true with some things, it's not true with everything it is used for. You can't blame society for the fact that you do the things you do. That is your choice. You have every right to say no, and stop blaming society for the fact that you aren't doing what makes you happy. You are the only one who can make you unhappy, don't say "Oh well if I don't do what society says I will get discriminated against." Guess what? Everyone is discriminated against by someone. There is someone out there who would be utterly appalled by the way you're living your life. We need to stop caring about what all these people are saying, if you don't want to wear makeup, don't. If you don't want to wear a bra, don't. No one is going to force you, say no.

The problem is that everyone needs an outside reason to not do something, when in all reality you cannot do something because you don't want to. People need an outside reason to not wear makeup, or to wear makeup, it's never "I don't wear makeup because I don't like it" or "I wear makeup because I like makeup." People decide to use "I don't wear it because it oppresses women" or "I wear makeup because society makes me feel like I need it" a majority of the time. You can't blame society for making you wear makeup or dressing a certain way or feeling a certain way, you should notice that mankind has this need to have an outside reason for things. It's because we are intelligent, and in being intelligent, humans need justification that is more than a simple "I like it."

I know I'm ranting, but jeez we need to stop society blaming. There is no progression with society blaming, we need to own up to our actions and say "You know what? I put on my own makeup and clothes every day and if I don't like what I'm wearing I'm changing it." If you don't like makeup don't wear it, if you do like makeup do wear it, and when someone asks why just say "I like it." That's all you need, you don't need the fact that you are against the oppression of women given by makeup or that you feel pressured, and if you do feel pressured to buy makeup take a step back and realize that no one really cares. I guarantee you that if you decide to not wear makeup that no one will notice or care. You find wearing makeup to be a big deal but remove yourself, if your coworker came in without makeup on would, you care? No. You would POSSIBLY notice a difference but then carry on with your day.

Okay I think I'm done ranting I just had to get it off my chest. Stop feeling the need to justify what you do, and stop blaming other people for what you do, your actions are your own. At the end of the day you have to live with yourself and you should do what makes you happy.  I will probably rant about this more in the future, and I'm sorry that this doesn't really have anything to do with guys, but I am female so I can only speak what I know.

Rain

It's raining... I love it. Twinkle lights and rain make my night... I love the sound of the earth being washed... it’s like the rain is taking all of the anger and stress and cleansing it…. It’s beautiful… It’s one of my favorite things… sitting and closing my eyes while it rains… It’s the most relaxing thing I know… no matter what is happening the rain can calm me…. It makes me become at peace with my life and realize that I can only move forward….. I love the rain…. I wish you would love it with me… 

Sorry it's so short but it was just something that happened spontaneously. I hope you all are having a nice rainy night. 

I got off for the day!

I got a surprise off day and now I have nothing to do? Maybe someone could give me advice? Thinking about going shopping, it's way too cold to go to the beach but I really want to. All of my friends seem to be busy.

What do you guys like to do to relax? I figured this was a pretty good idea for a post. Do you like rainy days that are warm or cold? Do you like hot sunny days or cold? Maybe you like snow? Do you like to read or go out? Maybe you like to shop? Maybe you like to sleep? I personally like to read, and shop. I like to go to the beach and for the days to be nice and warm. I like for it to rain later at night as I read a book.

So what is your favorite thing to do?

I wrote a thing!

The world isn’t perfect.

No matter what you will get bullied.

No matter what you will get discriminated against.

No matter what you will get told that you can’t do it.

These are things that will always happen. It doesn’t matter what you do there will always be negative people. We need to stop trying to erase negativity because it will always be there, what we need to do is teach each other how to cope.

I had a really hard time accepting this and had to go to damn THERAPY to learn it. And I think it’s time I shared.

I have read posts today on social media that were wrong on every end. 

There were people complaining that they don’t get treated like a beautiful woman does.

There were people complaining that they do get treated like a beautiful woman does.

There were people complaining that they are a straight, average, white person and that they are punished for that.

There were people complaining that they were not a straight, average, white person and that they are getting punished for that. 

These post were not wrong for their feelings, they weren’t wrong for the expressions. They were wrong because they are trying to change other people, and that no one is realizing that everyone has a hard time in life.

You can only change yourself.

That is the cold, honest truth. You can only change yourself permanently. You can voice your opinion and change someone else’s mind, but the chances of that happening are slim, and that person will most likely have their mind changed once again by someone else.

So how about instead of telling the negativity to change, we change.

 We learn how to accept it, the fact that negativity is a part of life. We learn how to, instead of spreading it by complaints, how to diminish it by love and confidence. We learn the difference between venting and complaining. We learn how to punish those who are negative, by staying positive, instead of letting them punish us by bringing us down.

We need to stop thinking that negativity is a curable disease, it isn’t. Everyone is negative at some point, we need to focus on how we act, how we treat others, we need to change ourselves, and by doing that there will be less negativity.

We need to be more self-aware and less self-centered.

Negativity will never disappear, but if we learn how to cope with it it won’t affect us.

Then again, I guess I’m breaking my own rules by trying to change you.

This is a huge misconception

Dear people,

I was homeschooled. No I don’t have ten million friends. No I don’t hang out with my friends every week. Do you want to know why?

Because I don’t have the personality that wants to hang out with all of my friends every week/day. I have a job that requires me to interact with people all the time so when I get a day off I want to be alone and read and write and play video games and listen to music that I like and go on walks. Not because I don’t have friends just because I don’t want to hang out with people all the time. 

I had friends who came over every week and it became a tradition and as I got older that tradition really made me miserable. I hated having to stay up with them. I hated having to show them what I had in my house to eat. I hated having them make my room a mess or distracting me or making me go out when really I just wanted to stay home a while. I hated having to not be able to take a shower. Or not be able to snuggle up with a book and a bunch of other people out there are just like me and guess what? They go to school, they have jobs, they are happy. 

Society has made it seem that if you don’t go out every Saturday you are automatically miserable, which isn’t true for some of us. I am perfectly happy with staying home in my pajamas and reading a book. I don’t want your pity, you’re actually wasting it. You are wasting it on someone who is perfectly happy. I like myself, I like to spend time with myself, I don’t like to have to sit and chat or have awkward silence. Yeah, when I get the urge I hang out with my friends I do, but that isn’t every week and that’s okay. 

I feel like this is one of the biggest misconceptions about life, that when you don’t go out every week you are a loser with no friends. It’s rude when you look at someone and say “I wish you had more friends.” It’s actually really insulting. I have friends, but I don’t see them everyday and that is fine by me. So how about instead of worrying about how many “Friends” I have and how much I go out you just realize that I am happy and that you should worry about your own happiness.

Just because someone doesn't hang out with a bunch of people doesn't mean they are sad. So maybe just let it be, because everyone is different. I had a stage where my parents literally forced me to make friends and it was really a unhappy time. If you or someone you know doesn't like to go out every night that is okay, even though everyone is saying it's not. And just because someone is homeschooled doesn't mean that they have no idea how to socialize or interact with people. I have had jobs that involve customer service since I was fourteen and it really annoys me when people say "Well you don't know how to socialize." Guess what, I do. I have no problem interacting with people and being homeschooled has given me the ability to interact with anyone and everyone. I know how to talk to adults, kids, and people my own age with no trouble at all. That is a better representation of someone who is homeschooled, the only reason you even know about the un-socialized cases is because bad things are the only thing that anyone ever hears about especially in minorities. So stop judging and grouping everyone into stereotypes, it's unbecoming on humans. 

Youtube

I fell asleep with my video uploading and the upload failed, so I am still trying! If anyone knows of any good free editing software that would be great too! So since my video is taking so long I am going to tell you 15 of my favorite youtubers and link you to their profiles. Woo! (This list is in no specific order.)

1. Hannah Hart! She is awesome, she is funny, cute, and she is really a super nice person and if you don't watch her you should.

2. Tyler Oakley! He is awesome and cute and a super funny person with good causes behind him. I am definitely one of his people.
3. Grace Helbig! Grace Helbig is great because she doesn't have that many dirty jokes; she is surely not for little kids but she makes me laugh and smile.

4. Mamrie Hart! Who has no relation to Hannah Hart other than being great friends is perfect even if you don't like to drink, with her raunchy humor and drinks (if you drink you should watch her just for that) she is a bundle of fun. But do not watch her if you don't like horribly inappropriate humor.

5. Tim Helbig! Grace Helbig's younger brother is as funny as she is, and very smart. He has adorable, dorky humor and is the cutest!

6. Rose and Rosie! The cutest couple around! I love them, and you should love them! Just a bit inappropriate, but so is almost everyone else on this list, they are great! Go check them out! 

7. Dan! As in danisnotonfire! The only way I would understand you not knowing who Dan is if you never ever have seen a youtube video. Ever.

8. Phil! Phil is in the same boat as Dan, and if you don't know who he is you should.

9. Louis Cole! He is the king of eating nasty food and the king of adventure! He has really helped inspire my need to travel.

10. Jack and Finn Harries! These British cuties are great! And they are twins, or are they?! Is Finn a FAKE TWIN?! In all seriousness though these two are not only great youtubers but also great people.

11. Shane Dawson! With all of his horrible-ness there is something you have to love! Do not watch him if you are easily offended though, or faint of heart.

12. Tanya Burr! She is the prettiest of them all and can help you get that way too! A great makeup guru with an adorable personality to match this girl is great!

13. Zoe Sugg! Better known as Zoella she is the cutest little pea-head around! 

14. Troye Sivan! He is awesome! He is funny! He is cute! He is friends with Tyler Oakley! What more could you ask from him?! 

15. Louise! Or Sprinkleofglitter is a mommy, a vlogger, a wife, and beautiful all at once. If you really want to be inspired and made happy you should really check her out. She is just simply wonderful. 

None of these are unknown youtubers but maybe you will see someone you have never watched or you have forgotten about! Hope you all enjoy this list and get a chuckle from all these people! 

Frozen

I just saw frozen and my heart is just dying. I'm dying. And I filmed a video! I'm still uploading it. It's been uploading all day. I will hopefully be able to edit it by tomorrow..... BUT I'm doing it guys!