This is a huge misconception

Dear people,

I was homeschooled. No I don’t have ten million friends. No I don’t hang out with my friends every week. Do you want to know why?

Because I don’t have the personality that wants to hang out with all of my friends every week/day. I have a job that requires me to interact with people all the time so when I get a day off I want to be alone and read and write and play video games and listen to music that I like and go on walks. Not because I don’t have friends just because I don’t want to hang out with people all the time. 

I had friends who came over every week and it became a tradition and as I got older that tradition really made me miserable. I hated having to stay up with them. I hated having to show them what I had in my house to eat. I hated having them make my room a mess or distracting me or making me go out when really I just wanted to stay home a while. I hated having to not be able to take a shower. Or not be able to snuggle up with a book and a bunch of other people out there are just like me and guess what? They go to school, they have jobs, they are happy. 

Society has made it seem that if you don’t go out every Saturday you are automatically miserable, which isn’t true for some of us. I am perfectly happy with staying home in my pajamas and reading a book. I don’t want your pity, you’re actually wasting it. You are wasting it on someone who is perfectly happy. I like myself, I like to spend time with myself, I don’t like to have to sit and chat or have awkward silence. Yeah, when I get the urge I hang out with my friends I do, but that isn’t every week and that’s okay. 

I feel like this is one of the biggest misconceptions about life, that when you don’t go out every week you are a loser with no friends. It’s rude when you look at someone and say “I wish you had more friends.” It’s actually really insulting. I have friends, but I don’t see them everyday and that is fine by me. So how about instead of worrying about how many “Friends” I have and how much I go out you just realize that I am happy and that you should worry about your own happiness.

Just because someone doesn't hang out with a bunch of people doesn't mean they are sad. So maybe just let it be, because everyone is different. I had a stage where my parents literally forced me to make friends and it was really a unhappy time. If you or someone you know doesn't like to go out every night that is okay, even though everyone is saying it's not. And just because someone is homeschooled doesn't mean that they have no idea how to socialize or interact with people. I have had jobs that involve customer service since I was fourteen and it really annoys me when people say "Well you don't know how to socialize." Guess what, I do. I have no problem interacting with people and being homeschooled has given me the ability to interact with anyone and everyone. I know how to talk to adults, kids, and people my own age with no trouble at all. That is a better representation of someone who is homeschooled, the only reason you even know about the un-socialized cases is because bad things are the only thing that anyone ever hears about especially in minorities. So stop judging and grouping everyone into stereotypes, it's unbecoming on humans.