I wrote a thing!

The world isn’t perfect.

No matter what you will get bullied.

No matter what you will get discriminated against.

No matter what you will get told that you can’t do it.

These are things that will always happen. It doesn’t matter what you do there will always be negative people. We need to stop trying to erase negativity because it will always be there, what we need to do is teach each other how to cope.

I had a really hard time accepting this and had to go to damn THERAPY to learn it. And I think it’s time I shared.

I have read posts today on social media that were wrong on every end. 

There were people complaining that they don’t get treated like a beautiful woman does.

There were people complaining that they do get treated like a beautiful woman does.

There were people complaining that they are a straight, average, white person and that they are punished for that.

There were people complaining that they were not a straight, average, white person and that they are getting punished for that. 

These post were not wrong for their feelings, they weren’t wrong for the expressions. They were wrong because they are trying to change other people, and that no one is realizing that everyone has a hard time in life.

You can only change yourself.

That is the cold, honest truth. You can only change yourself permanently. You can voice your opinion and change someone else’s mind, but the chances of that happening are slim, and that person will most likely have their mind changed once again by someone else.

So how about instead of telling the negativity to change, we change.

 We learn how to accept it, the fact that negativity is a part of life. We learn how to, instead of spreading it by complaints, how to diminish it by love and confidence. We learn the difference between venting and complaining. We learn how to punish those who are negative, by staying positive, instead of letting them punish us by bringing us down.

We need to stop thinking that negativity is a curable disease, it isn’t. Everyone is negative at some point, we need to focus on how we act, how we treat others, we need to change ourselves, and by doing that there will be less negativity.

We need to be more self-aware and less self-centered.

Negativity will never disappear, but if we learn how to cope with it it won’t affect us.

Then again, I guess I’m breaking my own rules by trying to change you.