Fear

Today I'm going to write about being afraid, I was going to write about it last night but for some reason my brain decided it would get the dumb (Anyone else watch Adventure Time?). So I'm going to tell you a little secret, everyone is afraid. Yes, everyone has a fear and if they get rid of that fear it is replaced by a new fear. But, most of us have these great fears because they are pretty logical.

Now you have to know what most people fear is failure, in their life, in their business, in their relationships. My biggest fear though is becoming schizophrenic, and you're biggest fear may be something other than not becoming something. If you are abused maybe your biggest fear is speaking out, if you were abused maybe your biggest fear is one day being your abuser, if you have a family history of mental illness maybe your biggest fear is getting that illness; all of those are logical fears. But you can't let that fear control your life, you have to live in the best way you can. If you are scared to speak out, just know you aren't alone. There are people around you who will help you, just look. If you are afraid of becoming the person who abused you maybe go to therapy, pick up a hobby, make your mind busy. If you have a history of mental illness in your family maybe do a little bit of research and live your life, if you feel something happen go to therapy or a doctor and talk about it. Knowledge is power.

It's tough to be brave and quiet our fears, especially when your fear is not becoming nothing, but what you can become. Fear is something that if we let it control us it can be crippling, if we let this tiny little emotion grow it can take us over. If we fear what we can/might be, we will never become what we were meant to be. So instead of letting fear control you, start doing something you love to do and let that fill you with bravery. I started riding horses and writing, do something that when you  do it, quite frankly, you feel bad-ass. Because the best way to get over fear is doing something that fills us with courage. If you fill your life up with courage the fear has no time to live.

Just know that if you are afraid you aren't the only one who is afraid. You have every right to show your fears who's boss. You can speak up and end your abuse, you can say you need help and get it, or you can learn about what is scaring you and live. Don't ever stop living your life because of fear, and don't ever be afraid to open your mouth because of it.
-J